Archive for December, 2009

is quitting MSN.

December 28, 2009

EDITEDIT: Me and my fickle mind have decided that I should use my email address as my AIM screen name instead so that it is not so confusing, and so that people don’t think that I am showing off as a Mac user (well I do show off, but making people sign up to AIM so that I can slap them with my .Mac handle is way too much). Also, the yk.teng@mac.com email address goes nowhere, as my .Mac trial has ended eons ago. It is still better to have a handle where people can email me directly. Therefore, with immediate effect, my AIM handle is now my email address.

EDIT: AIM is actually more robust than GTalk from my testing. Therefore, I would recommend you contact me on AIM instead. You can sign up for an account and grab the client from www.aim.com. Mac users can just use iChat. AIM also has a web client. You can also log on to AIM from Gmail. My screen name is yk.teng@mac.com tengweikei@gmail.com.

From today, I will be disconnecting from MSN. Having to support a dated and backward messaging protocol on my Mac has been painful to say the least. I am (was) currently piping my MSN through a Jabber server just so I can connect to MSN with iChat, and this implementation was far from convenient. Not to mention the very hacky address I need to enter in my address book for meta contacts, like your_email%msn.com@jaim.at. Ugly? You bet.

Besides, the people I have on MSN either say retarded things, or are seldom online, or they simply do not reply. I do not see the point of me going through all the trouble for these people. Besides, the people I need to talk to are on GTalk AIM anyway. (they used both in case you are wondering)

So, if you have an urgent need to contact me, I am still available by most modern means, like GTalk AIM, Email, Facebook, Twitter and WhatsApp. Do NOT SMS me, unless you do not have an iPhone.

AIM/Email: tengweikei@gmail.com
AIM: yk.teng@mac.com
Facebook: facebook.com/yk.teng
Twitter: twitter.com/ykteng
WhatsApp: my phone number

Besides Twitter, the notifications of all of the above are pushed to me. Meaning, once you click send, I will get it less than 5 seconds. All other social rules apply.

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Success? How?

December 16, 2009

I wonder, if it’s possible to be successful in life without being greedy. Greed, in essence, is wanting more. Therefore, isn’t it so that in the process of wanting more, you work towards it, and ultimately become successful?

Or is it such that success comes only when you least expect it? When you have no greed, no wants, no goal? If so, how does that all work out?

I can’t think of a better antonym to greed other than complacency.

Because when it’s when you stop yearning for anything, that you become complacent.

It is hard to believe that all the people out there that are successful in life are all complacent. But our culture and upbringing teaches us to never be greedy or ask for too much.

How to be successful like that? Confused much.

Don’t tell how exactly you got something awesome done, it becomes even more fantastic that way

December 1, 2009

When we come up with something (awesome), some (if not most) of us have a bad habit of shooting our mouths on how it was done. Realise that what you have done is suddenly not so fantastic and special anymore, especially if it was actually trivial to achieve. If you keep how you got it done a secret, the mystery magically makes what you have done even more fantastic than it actually is.

Of course you don’t just put yourself across as a snob, you can just skim the surface. Tell the person what he wants to hear.

Note: I have trouble doing this myself.

I can only deliver when I’m not expected to

December 1, 2009

Odd eh? But it’s true. When I’m not expected to deliver, I feel no restraint, and will put my best into whatever I’m trying to do, because I’m fighting for myself. To see how far I can push myself, without the stress of external expectations. It becomes a game, to see how ridiculously I can overdo something. And usually I surpass ‘expectations’ that I did not know about, which were in the minds of others but not told to me, usually by quite a bit.

On the other hand, when I am expected of something, I usually don’t, or can’t deliver. Firstly there’s the stress of the what-ifs. What if I fall below expectations? What if I fail? What if I don’t like to do it? And on top of that, when someone expects something from me, it is usually way beyond my capabilities, sometimes unknowing to them, and sometimes on purpose like my dad. Even if I do meet the expectation, the answer is almost always “Oh ok, thanks. Can you do this next?”

That being said, we’re all guilty of expecting things from others. Myself included. Reflecting about this, sometimes it’s because I don’t want to sit around waiting. Of course I do proceed on my own but in some instances, I can’t walk too far off or else I will be leaving the person behind already. It is also to point the person in the right direction, but who knows if the person has something great in mind that he is already brewing, and I totally came along and just stomped all over it?

How can a balance be struck in these situations? A worthy reflection indeed.